After spending over two years trying to learn and grow in my journey as a birthmom, I have joined and left three different “Birthmother” Facebook groups. I did learn a lot about myself and the struggles people are dealing with but these groups just weren’t a good fit for me. I did actually meet another “older” mom, like myself, in reunion for about the same amount of time. Our stories are different-but the same. We have been talking quite some time about needing to find a page for our age group-who had babies in/near the “baby scoop era” and in closed adoptions. It’s just hard to make a connection with women in open adoptions, especially when they are young enough to be our children.
Neither one of us found a group like that so we decided to start our own. I don’t know if this is a group that will grow or not. Women my age are usually not looking to social media for information and they probably felt like I did that there was no one who would understand. Before reunion with my daughter I avoided all things adoption related. Maybe they are “hiding” like I was.
If you are reading this blog and you are a birthmom or know someone who is, feel free to send them my way. Even if they don’t fit in my FB group I know a couple of really good ones!